Sinto writes on facts, a man shoulf be polygamous..
Polygamy is the custom of marrying more than one wife at the same time. This practice is imbedded in many traditions across the world. It clobbers my thinking creating aperture when I cogitate how beneficial and societal saving it is to be polygamous, arguable though.
I sob my heart out when politicians, the clerics and non-governmental organizations (NGOs) talked about young ladies and women who involve in prostitution, ‘kayayei’ and other social vices for livelihood, a practice which impoverishes their lives, without being sturdy on the facts. As the adage says when trees fall on top others, the top most must be removed first. Polygamy should be taught in masjids and in churches as its practice per say can’t sojourn the life dreams of a determined woman.
Women are currently the majority in Ghana and in many other countries. The idea of one woman to a man would certainly deprive many women of ever getting married. These unmarried women will end up being ‘public properties’, thus prostitutes. Others who also search for established men as husbands end up becoming vulnerable to all kinds of social vices.
Allah (God) in his infinite wisdom commanded mankind, specifically the men, to marry more than one wife in all scriptures especially the Holy Qur’an and the Holy Bible. In Qur’an chapter 4 verse 3, Allah says
وَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ أَلَّا تُقْسِطُوا۟ فِى ٱلْيَتَٰمَىٰ فَٱنكِحُوا۟ مَا طَابَ لَكُم مِّنَ ٱلنِّسَآءِ مَثْنَىٰ وَثُلَٰثَ وَرُبَٰعَۖ فَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ أَلَّا تَعْدِلُوا۟ فَوَٰحِدَةً أَوْ مَا مَلَكَتْ
(An-Nisa’ 4:3) أَيْمَٰنُكُمْۚ ذَٰلِكَ أَدْنَىٰٓ أَلَّا تَعُولُوا۟
“And if you fear that you will not deal justly with the orphan girls, then marry those that please you of [other] women, two or three or four. But if you fear that you will not be just, then [marry only] one or those right hand possesses. That is more suitable that you may not incline [to injustice]”. There are such of many verses in the Qur’an which the Muslims believe.
Similarly, the Holy Bible also gives many instances where prophets, who are enchantment to Christian doctrines marries more than one wife.
These verse include 1st Chronicles:25-28, 2nd Chronicles13:21, 11:21, and Genesis 4:19,16:1, 25:1, 29:15-3. In the book of Mathew Ch5 V17-21 Jesus said “Think not that I am come to destroy the law, or the prophets: I am not come to destroy, but to fulfilled For verily I say unto you, Till heaven and earth pass, one jot or one tittle shall in no wise pass from the law, till all be fulfilled. Whosoever therefore shall break one of these least commandments, and shall teach men so, he shall be called the least in the kingdom of heaven: but whosoever shall do and teach them, the same shall be called great in the kingdom of heaven. For I say unto you, that except your righteousness shall exceed the righteousness of the scribes and Pharisees, ye shall in no case enter into the kingdom of heaven”. This further enforces the doctrine of polygamy in Christianity, arguably though.
It’s shocking to know that there are 7.8billion people on planet (earth), 5.6billion are women and 2.2 billion are men.
So, women are advised to be careful in showing attitudes to any man because out of the 2.2 Billion men:
1Billion are married already,
130 million are in prison,
70 million are mentally ill,
That means that we have just about 1 Billion men available for marriage and out of the 1billion: 50% are jobless, 3% are gay, 5% are catholic priests, 10% are your relatives and 32% are above 66years according to UN 1st quarter demography report 2019.
So women have to rethink to marry a man who already has a wife in other to reduce social menace of women. Also, religious leaders should know that one can’t see his/her reflection in a boiling water; similarly truth can’t be seen in a state of anger and lack of knowledge. So always analyse before you finalize.
Social and religious scriptures (Qur’an and Bible) have proven worth of saving humanity in terms of polygyny more than 20 decades back and still, but “laakraa fiideeen “(there is no compulsion in the religion) truth has been spelt out make your judgment but Allah (God) frown upon the same sex marriage and prostitution.
By Sinto Baluri Abdulai
A youth advocate for what is right in society.