Don’t accept a love relationship if you’re not ready for marriage-Counsellor Adofoli

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Counsellor Adofoli

Counsellor Frank Edem Adofoli has advised singles to not accept love relationships if they are not ready or prepared for marriage, arguing that accepting to marry even when one is not ready is wrong.

“I have a huge issue with people who are not ready for marriage and yet accept a relationship; they don’t know the outcome of this relationship and or might not be able to handle the outcome. Anyone who gets into a relationship knowing deep within that they are not ready for marriage, is not marriage material, a marriage material is a person ready for marriage.

The fact that someone says he or she loves you and wants to marry you does not mean you should hurry along. The fact that their friends speak well about them or swear that their intentions are true does not mean you should get into relationships with them,” he advised.

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I have a huge issue with people who are not ready for marriage and yet accept a relationship; they don’t know the outcome of this relationship and or might not be able to handle the outcome. Anyone who gets into a relationship knowing deep within that they are not ready for marriage, is not marriage material, a marriage material is a person ready for marriage.

The fact that someone says he or she loves you and wants to marry you does not mean you should hurry along. The fact that their friends speak good about them or swear that their intentions are true does not mean you should get into relationships with them.

When passing through a market and a dress seller calls you, shows you a nice dress which compliments your skin colour and also perfectly fits you, it does not mean you should buy it even when you are not ready.

The question is, do you have what it takes to buy the dress. Do you have the amount of money the seller is offering for the dress and ready to part with the money without any problem. Have you budgeted for that or can your budget afford that?

Its not how nice the dress is or how well it fits or how a good the price is or how great the deal is. It’s not about the seller, it’s about your readiness. The wise person won’t buy the dress. He or she will say, this is a nice dress. Thank you. I am not ready now, when I am, I will get in touch.

There are chances that when you are ready in the future, that might not be your preferred colour, style, etc. You might want something better etc. Since you are ready and prepared, it won’t put any pressure or stress on you.

Same way with relationship or marriage. Accept proposal or accept invitation to date or get into relationship when you are ready. Let no man or woman push you. Let no person convince or confuse you.

There are chances that when you are ready, the person chasing you now or the person you want now won’t be the right person for you. Accepting their proposal is like accepting responsibility which you are not capable of handling.

The good news is you won’t have to deal with pressure and stress from a wrong relationship. You won’t be forced to do things you are not ready for, which your relationship is demanding.

When it comes to relationship there is no truth in the statement “catch them young and they’ll be yours forever”. Human beings are developing every passing day; situations and experiences are shaping us towards our destiny and purpose. You can’t deny anyone that growth. Someone can decide to get into a wrong relationship at a very early stage of their lives when they are not ready, not prepared or don’t know much, but when they grow more or develop, they are able to know they are in a wrong relationship, they are able to get out of such relationship.

Although you catch her young, there is a greater possibility she will leave as she matures for the scripture says “When we were children, we thought and reasoned as children do. But when we grew up, we quit our childish ways”- 1 Corinthians 13:11 (CEV).

As we celebrate Valentine, there are a couple of people looking for relationships, offering all sorts incentives in a bid for a relationship or marriage. Before you accept any proposal, take time to examine yourself if you are ready for marriage. Be true to yourself, you don’t need to date to gain experience for marriage, this is not a career you need experience for.

In conclusion, “Don’t brashly announce what you’re going to do tomorrow; you don’t know the first thing about tomorrow” – Proverbs 27:1 (MSG).

 


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